False ME39 Lindsey, I currently am a full- time student at the University of Maryland. I spend most of my evenings and late nights studying for exams and writing papers. I end up falling asleep during my study sessions. I was wondering if sleeping in my contacts is really that bad for my eyes? I have heard mixed opinions, but I would gratefully appreciate yours! * Eager Dear Eager, I wear contacts and I feel for you as I am up late hours typing articles and editing papers. It has come to my awareness that wearing your contacts to bed is extremely bad for the eyes. I believe that this is a critical period in which bacteria and fungus may enter the eyes. According to Science Daily, “ The University of Manchester study found that wearers who failed to remove their lenses before bedtime had an increased risk of developing keratitis ( an inflamed infection) than those who routinely took out their lenses before going to sleep.” The research also found that the type of contact lens worn had a significant effect on a person’s chances of developing a severe infection. In my personal experience, ordering “ extended wear” contacts has helped with the risks of infections in the eyes. Maybe you could try these or possibly look into purchasing glasses! Lindsey, My wedding is fastly approaching and I have been eating healthier to fit into my dress. However, ever since I started watching my food intake and making healthier choices I have noticed my hair is breaking drastically and becoming quite dull! Is there anything that I can do to make my special day “ picture perfect”? * Desperate Dear Desperate, Congrats on the big day approaching! It is wonderful that you are eating healthier and watching your diet. However, symptoms of hair damage and dullness could stem from the cause of under eating. According to Holistic Online, “ Hair loss occurs when the diet is inadequate in the B vitamins - especially B6, biotin, inositol and folic acid; and the minerals magnesium, sulfur and zinc. B vitamins, especially B5 ( pantothenic acid) and B3 ( niacin), are especially important for hair growth and strengthening damaged hair. Certain essential amino acids are also found to control the thinning and thickening of hair.” If you decide to take a vitamin for this issue, you should consult with a professional. I believe if you are making an effort to eat properly and condition your hair regularly then the dullness and damage will diminish over time. I hope this helps! Lindsey, So I am in a bit of a bind. I am 22 years old and I am about to graduate from college this semester. My boyfriend and I have been in a serious and strong relationship since the first year of college. Do you have any advice on whether or not we should move in together? I live in a wealthy area and the rent is too expensive to manage on my own. Do you think this will ruin us? * Confused Dear Confused, I am sorry to hear that you are struggling with the inevitable concern of moving in with your boyfriend before marriage. From my understanding, this question has been asked by many young people once taking the next step in their relationship. Although I do not have the perfect answer, I believe that unless a higher commitment is agreed in the relationship, then moving in together could be a disaster. However, I also feel that the newer generation is changing older traditions such as living together before marriage and making them more appealing and meaningful. Common “ wisdom” says that living together in a “ trial marriage” is a good way to determine if couples are compatible before marriage. There have actually been numerous studies that have examined whether living together before marriage is a good idea. The data from the Journal of Marriage and the Family shows, “ people who have multiple cohabiting relationships before marriage are more likely to experience marital conflict, marital unhappiness, and eventual divorce than people who do not cohabit before marriage”. However, some individuals believe that living together before marriage helps to better understand and value their relationship, while helping with finances in an expensive environment. All in all, do what you believe is best for you! Maybe you could make a list of pros and cons? Or talk with friends and loved ones. Just a suggestion. Have a question for Lindsey? She’s listening! Email her at lindsey. bateman@ meme2magazine. com
False ME40 Heating up your love life Written by Lindsey Bateman, Editor of Life & Health “ The deepest and most satisfying sex usually comes when two people are open, honest and respectful in their communication,” says Lou Paget, ‘ sexpert’ and author of the acclaimed sex guides for women How to Be a Great Lover and How to Give Her Absolute Pleasure. Once that happens, she says, “ There are no bounds to the passion, spontaneity and wonderful soul- merging sex you and your partner can experience.” Does this spark your attention? Maybe you are not sure how to spice things up in the bedroom? Or is it possible that you are just in a relationship rut? According to the University of Chicago’s Sex American survey, the more sex a person has, the better the chances to have a happy life and a happy relationship. The survey found most Americans have sex only once a week, with 35 percent reporting encounters of intimacy just a few times a year. The survey of 3,000 adult Americans between 18 and 59 years old also found 43 percent of women and 31 percent of men experience sexual problems. With this study, one has to realize how having a low sex drive can relate to a troubled relationship as a whole. So what must we do to change our bedroom despair? Make sure you are eating right!!! While there is no proven connection between a balanced diet and bedroom performance, a poor diet can cause health problems that can possibly interfere with sexual intimacy. Doctors specializing in nutrition and food science agree saying, “ You will feel sexy if you look and feel good.” Another way to think about this issue is fueling your car engine so that it may be able to function properly. If we do not fuel our engines, we experience fatigue and would rather sleep than become sexually active. So instead of rolling over to your side of the bed tonight, take charge, fuel your body, and your partner will thank you! The next step is to get moving!! Being physically active can be a natural sexual boost, according to the American Council of Exercise ( ACE), which recommends 20 to 30 minutes of moderate exertion a day. Researchers say exercise can promote the body’s release of hormones important for sexual arousal, increase aerobic capacity and muscle strength, and help self- body image. All of these provide benefits for “ under the sheets” activity. Plus, exercise releases stress, which in turn can promote positive sexual energy. One of the most important necessities for boosting sex drive is adequate levels of sleep. A National Sleep Foundation ( NSF) poll, conducted in 2008, shows people’s moods can be affected by the amount of sleep they obtain. People who sleep less than six hours are more likely to report they are tired, stressed, sad, and angry than those who sleep more than eight hours. On another note, those with few sleep problems tend to report they are full of energy and happy. NSF’s 2008 Sleep in America poll indicates that the lines between work and home life are blurred. More than half of Americans ( 58%) are bringing work home to complete at night. In fact, 20 percent spend more than ten hours a week doing job- related activities at home. So as you can see, a lack of sleep leads to weight gain, more accident proneness, and overall stress. So getting that extra hour of shut- eye could change sexual behavior for the better in any relationship! Eating right, exercising, and getting the proper amount of sleep is definitely important when it comes to sexual desire. But the overall state of stress on the body is crucial when performing sexually. Relaxation is something that most couples have problem focusing on. To unwind a day mentally doctors suggest taking time aside for a walk, a dinner, or a chat without interruption from outside sources is a must. Clearing the head from other aspects of your life is what it takes to reap the benefits of “ getting in the mood” to perform with your partner. Understanding each other’s needs and wants is a great way to take your sexual relationship in the right direction. Communication is key to a successful relationship. Talking about sex is only beneficial in the long run. Overall, if you have a good ground of stress management, setting your priorities, and taking good care of yourself, then you WILL and CAN build a healthy sexual relationship. Of course not every couple is a perfect match, but taking extra time to cherish yourself and your significant other can lead to a more “ heated” love life! Take charge this summer, set a flame and light the fire. Spark up your bedroom, heat up your love life, and get your exercise, your healthy diet, and sleep! Spice up your love life and explore all that you and your partner have to offer!